Relationships 101 Happy Maggy Compilation Part-1:
Are you a relationship fighter, who love to fight for your relationship ’til the last breath? or the other kind of relationship “fight-er”, who love to fight against each other? or maybe both? KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON WITH HAPPYMAGGGY! We’ll help you survive in this crazy battle arena called LOVE!
1. Know the beauty of differences. Learning how to manage it is the key to succeed in all kinds of relationship.
2. Learn the art of listening. It is the essential skill we need to develop in a healthy relationship. Most of the time, listening to the other is all we need for solving problems.
3. Do not interrupt. Besides it’s not polite, believe it or not it’s just going to make whatever things get worse. Even if you think what your partner’s saying is uninteresting, don’t bulldoze over their words.
4. Do not be judgmental. If you don’t like to be constantly told that you are doing something wrong, then your partners probably feel the same way.
5. Watch your tone. It’s not always what you say that usually hurts the other, but the way you say it. Learn how to say it with love, compassion and good intention behind it.
6. Put your pride aside. Proverbs 11:2 states, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”
7. Respect, respect, respect. Mutual respect is important to a good relationship.
8. Agree to disagree. This is very crucial, as you both have strong opinions and therefore some issues will never be resolved. Respect each other’s point of view and agree not to argue about the same issues again and again.
9. More communication, less arguments. Just as communication is one of the most significant elements in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element.
10. Get over needing to be right. Learning to say, “It’s my bad”, or “I was wrong” is a skill worth learning.
11. Acknowledge your mistakes. Sometimes it is maybe hard for someone to admit a mistake, but you need to at least acknowledge it so you won’t fall into the dark pit of blaming the other.
12. If you are wrong, do apologize. Make sure you apologize without making excuses in your apology. If you are sincerely sorry, then don’t blame your bad behavior on others. It really is that simple, either you are sorry for what you did or you’re not.
13. Take responsibility for the mistake that you made. Genuinely make a commitment to never do what hurt that person again.
14. Take responsibility for your own happiness. At the end of the day, the only person who can hold accountable for your own happiness is you.
15. Take a good care of yourself. Start doing things that make you feel good about yourself, both inside and out.
16. Love yourself. How would you love someone when you don’t know how to love yourself?
17. Remember to say thanks.Let the person you love know that you notice the little things they do by saying thank you, especially the one that they did without you asking.
18. Appreciate every single effort he or she made. Appreciation is what brings you both closer to each other.
19. Let go of the past. Holding onto the things your lover said or did in the past that you might not like and bringing it up each time you get mad at him or her will only get nastier. Do both of you a favor and let it go.
20. Leave the scars behind. Whatever you have been through in your last relationship leave everything behind. Let your failure be a lifetime lesson for you, but there’s no need to open up that old scars ever again.
21. Leave your stress behind. Sometimes even when you’re not mad at your partner somehow you could react negatively to him or her because of your stress, so leave them behind before you see each other.
22. Stop making things more complicated. Stay away from those drama-fever attitude slash behavior when it comes to relationship, be in a real life and don’t complicate things that aren’t complex at all.
23. Stop nagging. Seriously, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you, then try to approach them from a place of concern and support instead of constant flows of negativity.
24. Communicate in a constructive way. When negative emotions come up, talking can easily turn into fighting. Try using a constructive phrase to communicate in a way that works for both.
25. Learn each other’s conflict habits. Make an effort to understand you and your partner’s conflict habits so you can break bad patterns and re-program it by finding a middle ground that’s productive and respectful.
26. Acknowledge positive actions. When you and your partner see positive actions, solutions, or behavior in one another, acknowledge it and remind each other to keep it up.
27. Make the best out of each other. The happiest couples don’t necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
28. Dig the gold nuggets in every situation. Try to always see the goodness in your partner. It could change-up even the worst situation around.
29. Discovering each other needs. Men and women have different needs, so try to understand it and embrace each other needs for a better outcome.
30. Be aware of each other boundaries and limits. In this case we need to know when to stop before the other one explodes.
31. Give trust not advice. A simple trust could brighten up their day, no advises needed.
32. Fix the problems not your partner. You are both human. Your partner will make mistakes and so will you. Actively seek ways to repair hurts with your partner.
33. Acceptance is what everyone need. One of the common mistakes in relationship is trying to change your partner, instead do accept and love them as how they are, remember that we’re beautifully made in God’s images.
34. Don’t expect others to do things you can’t do yourself. Always put yourself in your partner’s shoes. If you feel it hurts you then it will probably giving the same impact to the other.
35. Always find things you really love or like about them and tell them. You’re there to make each other feel like your best selves, so let the genuine praise flow freely.
36. Compliment, and often. Everyone needs confidence boosters.
To be continued… (Read Part-2 here)